Both relays not working is strange. They worked when u jumped them so the relays are working, correct? Put 12volts to the trim and tilt wires where it connects to the switch and see if it moves. Does your switch have 2 or 3 wires? Could be the wires or switch....the relays u are asking about can be bought at an auto store....bring the old one...
yes theses relays are standard //// look to make Shure you did the ground correct
Is there a switch on the side of the motor?If you suspect it is in the control you can take the switch apart up there and clean it.
Let me get this clear. You have a two wire motor, and the relay works by swapping positive to negative to run the motor in one direction or another. You tested the motor before connecting to the relay by hooking it directly to a 12 volt source. The motor runs. When you connect the motor to the relay, the motor will not run, but you do hear a click from the relay when you operate the trim switch on the throttle. You swapped relays and no click.Are you getting enough voltage to the relay? Have you run the battery down during installation and testing? Are all the grounds at the junction box good? If the relay is clicking, it's obvious that the switch on the throttle is working so I'd guess the problem must be low voltage to the system, a bad ground or connection at the relay or a bad and or wrong relay. Also, if you have the outboard trimmed all the way up, it may be locking up the trim motor. Try using the manual release to lower the motor and see if that frees things up.
There are several topics here where the switch in the control being dirty caused the "Click" only. Apparently too much resistance. The one in my Yamaha control did this - I got it replaced and everything was fine again but another member posted how to clean it and he did this to repair the same symptoms on his Yamaha control - I could have saved over a hundred $ just cleaning mine. Try it - maybe look on Youtube for how to disassemble it?